Sermon
How to train a puppy...or a husband
02/14/10 18:09
Marriage is a coming together, a combining of two independent entities
into one permanent being. If you go into marriage thinking there will
be a you and me you're wrong, there is only an us. Once married every
thing you do is a "us" event. Every decision you make is a "us"
decision. It always effects both partners. Getting a glass a milk from
the frig is a us decision. The other partner may have been planning on
using it for something else. Marriage is defined as "us" and anything
less is not marriage.
That level of "us" requires absolute intimacy both emotionally and
physically anything less is not marriage. Husbands usually look for
the physical intimacy where wives desire the emotional. For a good
marriage there must be a balance of the two, anything less is not
marriage.
How do you get absolute emotional commitment? The wife has to
initiate and lead this. Why not the guy? Because guys aren't capable
of doing it. Guys have no experience with this kind of emotional
experience, unless they experience it with a women. Men don't act that
way toward other men. There is no place for men to learn how to relate
emotionally unless it's with a women. Here's an example; two guys go
fishing when the one gets home his wife asks him how it went. He says
good. She says did you have fun? He replies yes. She asks what did
you talk about and he gives her a blank look. She says didn't you talk
about anything? He says no. She replies you were out in a boat
together for 3 hours and you didn't talk about anything. He says well
I said I think I'll change to a rapala. He said i think I'll try a
worm. I said can you pass me a Coke. You think we should move to the
other end of the lake. Can you pass me another coke? Think it will
rain. They're not biting very good are they. What's that smell. Dang,
what did you eat? That's a typical man’s conversation and you expect
someone who converses like that to lead a couple into a deep emotional
relationship? It's not that he doesn't want it, he's just incapable of
getting the relationship there. It doesn't make any difference how
hard he tries, he is incapable. He might as well be trying to get
pregnant. He'd have just as much luck. Sometimes men do have deep
conversations. It sounds like this. How's the job going. Good. How's
the family. Good. What's the wife doing. Working. What's the kids
doing. Going yo school. That's a deep conversation for a guy. Guys
and gals just communicate on different levels. Imagine a guy comes
home and says so and so had her baby today. The wife will ask was it a
girl or boy. I don't know. You don't know, do you know it's name? I
think it was Robin, Robert, Pat. or Sam. Something like that. Do you know
how much it weighed or how long it is? No but I think it is a keeper,
I don't think they threw it back. The emotional intimacy is the most
important aspect of a marriage. Do you really want him to be
responsible for it? Women on the other hand are ideally suited for
it. They thrive on emotional contact. Watch several women talk
together. Women have emotional connections down to a science. So how
do you get a guy to connect emotioanlly with you? Train him like you
would a puppy. Men and puppies have much in common. They're both cute,
cuddly, and lovable. Ok would you believe they're both easily distracted,
don't listen very well and leave a mess everywhere they've been.
If you train a puppy with love and rewards you'll end up with a happy,
loyal, well behaved puppy who will love you unconditionally. If you
try to train him with anger, yelling and whipping he'll run for cover
everytime you raise your voice. Say anything harsh or loud and you'll
find your dog hunkered up under the couch. Sound like your husband
when you yell or nag at him? You'll never get your husband to be a
good happy husband by nagging at him. Never. What does your husband
want most out of your relationship. No not that. He wants your love
respect and praise. Give him that he'll connect with you on an
emotional level you can only imagine. Nag at him and emotionally he'll
hunker down under the couch. So if the women is responsible for the
most important aspect of a marriage what is the guy responsible for?
The physical intimacy. Guys are ideally suited for it. We think about
it a lot and it requires practically no intelligence to accomplish.
Males of the animal kingdom all over the world that are completely
incapable of intelligent thought manage to be responsible for physical
intimacy. You don't even have to be fully conscience. Like I said this
is a job men are ideally suited for. Next week we'll find out what
else men are responsible for.
into one permanent being. If you go into marriage thinking there will
be a you and me you're wrong, there is only an us. Once married every
thing you do is a "us" event. Every decision you make is a "us"
decision. It always effects both partners. Getting a glass a milk from
the frig is a us decision. The other partner may have been planning on
using it for something else. Marriage is defined as "us" and anything
less is not marriage.
That level of "us" requires absolute intimacy both emotionally and
physically anything less is not marriage. Husbands usually look for
the physical intimacy where wives desire the emotional. For a good
marriage there must be a balance of the two, anything less is not
marriage.
How do you get absolute emotional commitment? The wife has to
initiate and lead this. Why not the guy? Because guys aren't capable
of doing it. Guys have no experience with this kind of emotional
experience, unless they experience it with a women. Men don't act that
way toward other men. There is no place for men to learn how to relate
emotionally unless it's with a women. Here's an example; two guys go
fishing when the one gets home his wife asks him how it went. He says
good. She says did you have fun? He replies yes. She asks what did
you talk about and he gives her a blank look. She says didn't you talk
about anything? He says no. She replies you were out in a boat
together for 3 hours and you didn't talk about anything. He says well
I said I think I'll change to a rapala. He said i think I'll try a
worm. I said can you pass me a Coke. You think we should move to the
other end of the lake. Can you pass me another coke? Think it will
rain. They're not biting very good are they. What's that smell. Dang,
what did you eat? That's a typical man’s conversation and you expect
someone who converses like that to lead a couple into a deep emotional
relationship? It's not that he doesn't want it, he's just incapable of
getting the relationship there. It doesn't make any difference how
hard he tries, he is incapable. He might as well be trying to get
pregnant. He'd have just as much luck. Sometimes men do have deep
conversations. It sounds like this. How's the job going. Good. How's
the family. Good. What's the wife doing. Working. What's the kids
doing. Going yo school. That's a deep conversation for a guy. Guys
and gals just communicate on different levels. Imagine a guy comes
home and says so and so had her baby today. The wife will ask was it a
girl or boy. I don't know. You don't know, do you know it's name? I
think it was Robin, Robert, Pat. or Sam. Something like that. Do you know
how much it weighed or how long it is? No but I think it is a keeper,
I don't think they threw it back. The emotional intimacy is the most
important aspect of a marriage. Do you really want him to be
responsible for it? Women on the other hand are ideally suited for
it. They thrive on emotional contact. Watch several women talk
together. Women have emotional connections down to a science. So how
do you get a guy to connect emotioanlly with you? Train him like you
would a puppy. Men and puppies have much in common. They're both cute,
cuddly, and lovable. Ok would you believe they're both easily distracted,
don't listen very well and leave a mess everywhere they've been.
If you train a puppy with love and rewards you'll end up with a happy,
loyal, well behaved puppy who will love you unconditionally. If you
try to train him with anger, yelling and whipping he'll run for cover
everytime you raise your voice. Say anything harsh or loud and you'll
find your dog hunkered up under the couch. Sound like your husband
when you yell or nag at him? You'll never get your husband to be a
good happy husband by nagging at him. Never. What does your husband
want most out of your relationship. No not that. He wants your love
respect and praise. Give him that he'll connect with you on an
emotional level you can only imagine. Nag at him and emotionally he'll
hunker down under the couch. So if the women is responsible for the
most important aspect of a marriage what is the guy responsible for?
The physical intimacy. Guys are ideally suited for it. We think about
it a lot and it requires practically no intelligence to accomplish.
Males of the animal kingdom all over the world that are completely
incapable of intelligent thought manage to be responsible for physical
intimacy. You don't even have to be fully conscience. Like I said this
is a job men are ideally suited for. Next week we'll find out what
else men are responsible for.